We and Love!

“…it only matters that you love.”

The most beautiful feeling in the word. However, is love enough for two people? Is love the only feeling people have for each other? What about being soul mates or support to each other or friends, in that case? Surely, we can name a relationship the way we want.

So why do we fear to name it! I wonder…may be we are not sure ourselves.

Well, I fell in love last year. At least I think I did! Well, surely I did. Argh! This is not the point. The point is the feeling…

He made me feel good. As they say, the first love is always special. Yes, it is. No matter how it ends, it is always the perfect relationship, to have that eccentric feeling and the impeccable and magical relationship.

It is perfect, isn’t it? The first touch. The first glance. To smile to each other meaninglessly. The laughter with each other. The first kiss. And the first fight. The passion that comes with the first time is enigmatic. To give in to each other completely. The newfound romance. To be just us! Well, isn’t this what we desire always?

Do what you desire to do.

We desire to be the best for each other, even though the future is bleak.

Then, when the future is sad and hurting, the present becomes a chaos. You think where you went wrong, and reimagine and recreate everything in your mind to find that loose end to tie and to make the past your present again. Well, not all times people are to be blamed; only the circumstances made it look bad, may be.

The past seems like yesterday, then, and yet, you want the future to be like the past. Hell, you want the present to be that magical again. And as they say, first love is the first love is the first love! No one can ever beat that!

Feelings and the past are a deadly combination, and people should believe in a bright tomorrow! 

However, the past gives you beautiful memories. In addition, those memories sometimes hurt.

People might say it is time to move on and to give each other personal space, but what about not moving on with someone else, but to make the circumstances more interesting and endearing for the same person! Isn’t this also a feeling one can have? May be the other person might have moved on, and you might know that and yes, it hurts like hell to be standing on that same place…to be stranded and to see your “world” moving away, but isn’t it about your feelings? Have a different perspective, always.

Yes, feelings are the big words. However, feelings should always make one happy. If loving the same person gives a different perspective to your life, then go for it. And if you think, your future will look good if you had different perspective, then you should go for it. Be true to your feelings and do what your heart wants because in the end it is your life.

Sometimes, yes, I do wish, I acted in different way that time to make the present and the future beautiful. In the end, it is always about what “I” want and desire. Always do what your hearts want even if the world and the people ask and say not to! Love, work, read, breathe on your terms always. 

Always do it how you want to do it. Yes, consult and refer, but take the decision that you always wanted to.

First, it might hurt to be the odd one out, but the result will always make you look back with a smile and you will know you made the right decision. In the end it is always the love, I mean the feelings, that matters!

Moreover, about loving the person when the relationship has already ended? Umm…Will think about later. Still now, the past does make my present look happy…

Well, one thought though, relationships should be crafted with reason and sense also. If the people can’t respect each other then there can be no love as well…

WE and CHOICES!!

We love when we have an option, preference, chance, selection or an alternative. In short we need these Choices.

These words, actually, these are life savers, which we seek whenever we are in a dilemma, or a problem. In our crisis they bring in a cool breeze of happiness.

‘I have a choice, and I will decide what I want/need.’ Yes, saying this sentence gives a win-win feeling! But do we ever think but that choice might do to our family and friends?!

I recently had to make a choice! I made that choice! My subconscious mind did think what it might lead to my family, but my conscious just thought about what I will get if I made that choice, what I will gain, and what I want. But as we say it’s our life, it’s our choice! And this choices, I am sure will hurt our families in the beginning. But they will identify with it by and by... Their understanding is our hidden strengths!

Making a choice is not as difficult as making our family understand why we prefer that choice! And may be in that process we will select a better choice for ourselves! Or maybe our confidence in our choice will grow...

Yes, you may say that ‘It’s our choice and our life’ so why do we need to consider about what family and friends might think! But we need to! When we see that sparkle we have in their eyes after accepting our decision. It’s a feeling of the millennium! It’s a feeling which no one can buy!

Having a choice is good, because in that way, we tend to know what we really want!
Selecting science arts or commerce! Going to a college in Mumbai or Bangalore or staying in my city! Selecting a job offer or starting a business or chasing that dream! Selecting the house with a pool or with a lawn. Preferring a car with music system or not! Cooking Chinese or continental for dinner! Wearing a sari or a gown to the cocktail party! Colour of the drapes should contrast or be similar to the room colour! And many more…

Choices! Preferences! About profession, work, studies, attire, even whom to choose as our friends and whom to marry etc, etc. This is an endless list. Each day we have choices to make. Some are beneficial to us and some are beneficial to others but all those choices guide us in our life. But choices are influential and significant in our lives.

The choices I faced are mostly about studies! And I am yet to know whether they were/are wise choices or….
The options to choose from are infinite and sometimes they make me feel that I should run away from these choices and wait for someone else to make that choice! But it’s all about taking a chance to make that choice to change the course of my life hopefully in a positive outcome! Isn't it?

Choices should be chosen wisely! But we shouldn't be disheartened if that choice wasn't a winner! We just need to imbibe the positives, understand our mistakes and try again…
But choices when made by own selves are the best choices. Choosing left or right, should be entirely an individual choice! A choice of being happy!!

 A choice like studying, to have a job which our hearts want, which will inspire our lives in a positive upbringing and making our family and friends understanding it, is a much needed choice to make our society a better living place!

As my friend says ‘If that's how powerful choices are, and if we really love making one for ourselves, then let's make them wisely.’ http://www.manishbengani.com/2013/01/in-love-with-choices.html