WE and NEW!!

Away from known, I have come,

Gone are the days of home.
Not knowing what future holds.
Yet standing to walk forward.

These words sound familiar to those who have come away from home for work or studies. I sometimes wonder if I have stayed in my city I wouldn't have felt this depressingly gloomy and miserably poignant. I would have been happy there among my friends, among my family, in my room, in my home. It will have been my good ol’ life...

My city gave me my 21 years of love, happiness and bliss. I also had my share of heartbreaks. City life was of fun, courage and enthusiasm.

Wonder what may happen next,
Unknown and mysterious  rest.

Next! Yes. Life full of opportunities, chances, probabilities and prospects. It will also be of enthusiasm, passion and love.
A life where we will be skilled, trained in all the walks of life. We will teach ourselves to be proficiently qualified in our fields.

Not bad?! Huh?

Our dreams are to be triumphant in our lives despite of how longingly we look back at our past. Our past may be very blissful to look at. But it is our future that we have to make a success of heavenly pleasure.

Past where mom’s cooking was delicacies. Nowadays food is the sole reason to be healthy.
Past where our room is our room. Now we learn the art of sharing.
Past where studies were easy. Now it is being a professional.
Past where home works were a bore. At this time assignments need to be interesting.

Present and future!
Surprises ye have.
Yet how fun ye will be.

Next, I don’t know what will happen. Then I don’t know how I may be.
Next I don’t know how I will fare. Then I don’t know how successful I will be.

Future may be this, that, etc, etc. All I want is an honest, truthful and sincere life of opportunities, where I will learn, be trained, gain knowledge and achieve wisdom and live my life to the fullest.

New city. New place. New work. New life.
Fresh opportunities. Bright sunbeams.
Vivid aims. Colourful dreams.
Vibrant plans. Innovating ideas.

I don’t want to be brooding and gloomy about my past. Past should be memories which I will fondly remember.
I want my future to be enthusiastically passionate. My present should be bright and vivid where I can pave my future through.

"Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing."

WE and What Ifs!!!

Future…

Uncertain and unsure life ahead...

What will happen next? How my future will be? Will my life shape according to my choices?

We always have these questions in our mind. We always think about the future.

My friends and I are constantly thinking about our future for the next two years.
What will happen? Will my dreams become reality? Will I get what I want? Will the teachers love me?

But, don’t you think that we are missing out on life now. We have omitted the joys of being a graduate. Yes, I know, the results are uncertain, given what we have written. But, we have finished college. That itself calls for a celebration.

Yet, here we are, thinking about our post graduation and work days.

True, that we need planning and preparation for our future. For that top ground breaking place, we need to think about our future.
But, that doesn't mean we will forget about our very present.

You must be thinking why I am talking about present and future, because we all know these basics.

Yes, we all know that we should live in the present, future will be shaped accordingly. Yet, we end up thinking about ‘What will happen’ or ‘What if’!

What will happen if I am not selected? What if my parents don’t talk to me anymore because I didn't choose what they chose for me! What will happen if I screw up on my first day? What if I don’t get the first place? What if he got a better offer than me? And so on...  and there are also What will happen if he/she rejects me?? What if that I don’t deserve him/her? What will happen if my boyfriend/girlfriend leaves me? What will happen if he/she falls in love with someone good looking than me? And so forth…

Okay so innumerable what ifs & what will happens. And our present vanishes in this innumerable in this…

You must be thinking that we need to address these “Innumerable what ifs & what will happens” to make our future bright.

But our future will shine only if we work on making us shine… Thinking about these questions and procrastinating them will never make us shine… And if we work on living our present will surely have a shining future… 

And also about asking the right ‘what ifs and what will happen’. Like What will happen if I choose a degree course instead of a diploma course? What if I join this institution instead of this college? What will happen If I loved him/her for what he/she is? What if I give this relationship some time instead of coming to conclusions?

Yes, addressing the right questions makes life simple. But we need to have that affirmative feeling in our questions and also that optimistic attitude to whatever life offers. Yes, you may say all time optimism is hard, when we don’t get what we want. But being sad and crying and feeling disgusted with what we never wanted yet got nevertheless, will never make us happy.

Living our life today is what matters. These what ifs and what will happens come and go. We need to be living today so that as we all say to have a bright and shining future. Addressing the right questions, dealing with life with that smile and that correct attitude helps…

 “Life is not in our hands, Living is.” ..http://zubinrashid.blogspot.in/2007/03/life-is-not-in-our-hands-living-is.html ..

WE and CHOICES!!

We love when we have an option, preference, chance, selection or an alternative. In short we need these Choices.

These words, actually, these are life savers, which we seek whenever we are in a dilemma, or a problem. In our crisis they bring in a cool breeze of happiness.

‘I have a choice, and I will decide what I want/need.’ Yes, saying this sentence gives a win-win feeling! But do we ever think but that choice might do to our family and friends?!

I recently had to make a choice! I made that choice! My subconscious mind did think what it might lead to my family, but my conscious just thought about what I will get if I made that choice, what I will gain, and what I want. But as we say it’s our life, it’s our choice! And this choices, I am sure will hurt our families in the beginning. But they will identify with it by and by... Their understanding is our hidden strengths!

Making a choice is not as difficult as making our family understand why we prefer that choice! And may be in that process we will select a better choice for ourselves! Or maybe our confidence in our choice will grow...

Yes, you may say that ‘It’s our choice and our life’ so why do we need to consider about what family and friends might think! But we need to! When we see that sparkle we have in their eyes after accepting our decision. It’s a feeling of the millennium! It’s a feeling which no one can buy!

Having a choice is good, because in that way, we tend to know what we really want!
Selecting science arts or commerce! Going to a college in Mumbai or Bangalore or staying in my city! Selecting a job offer or starting a business or chasing that dream! Selecting the house with a pool or with a lawn. Preferring a car with music system or not! Cooking Chinese or continental for dinner! Wearing a sari or a gown to the cocktail party! Colour of the drapes should contrast or be similar to the room colour! And many more…

Choices! Preferences! About profession, work, studies, attire, even whom to choose as our friends and whom to marry etc, etc. This is an endless list. Each day we have choices to make. Some are beneficial to us and some are beneficial to others but all those choices guide us in our life. But choices are influential and significant in our lives.

The choices I faced are mostly about studies! And I am yet to know whether they were/are wise choices or….
The options to choose from are infinite and sometimes they make me feel that I should run away from these choices and wait for someone else to make that choice! But it’s all about taking a chance to make that choice to change the course of my life hopefully in a positive outcome! Isn't it?

Choices should be chosen wisely! But we shouldn't be disheartened if that choice wasn't a winner! We just need to imbibe the positives, understand our mistakes and try again…
But choices when made by own selves are the best choices. Choosing left or right, should be entirely an individual choice! A choice of being happy!!

 A choice like studying, to have a job which our hearts want, which will inspire our lives in a positive upbringing and making our family and friends understanding it, is a much needed choice to make our society a better living place!

As my friend says ‘If that's how powerful choices are, and if we really love making one for ourselves, then let's make them wisely.’ http://www.manishbengani.com/2013/01/in-love-with-choices.html

WE and UNCERTAIN '???'....

Will I get full marks? Does he/she love me? Do I look good in this attire? Am I pretty? I am no good for this job.

We have so many questions in our lives. We ask this type of questions innumerable times to ourselves. Am I good enough? Am I eligible for this job? Or it can be like I am no good; I don’t know what will happen to me; should I do this?; I can’t aim that high; I would not be able to accomplish my goal...  And many more…

Uncertainty is part of life... We all live with that hazy element... But, our present is not muddled… It’s clear... It is evident and visible if we look for it… And in that sense, we make our future, pretty clear too… Our future is designed by our present…

But we always have these questions! We always come up with questions which are inaccurate, off beam, uncertain, and vague. We always are not clear in our mind… If we are clear for one thing, we may be vague about another. We always fear about the future and think about the past… In this way we don’t enjoy our present life…

And these questions are often asked to another person. Their views and opinions always matter more than our own heart says. But why do we need to ask these uncertain questions to ourselves or to others? Why we need to know these answers?

Getting full marks, sure matters, one will definitely get that, if one had studied. One is always good in his or her jobs if one knows his or her job! Beautiful heart is more necessary than a pretty face, I guess. One can aim as much high as he or she wants, one can aim for all that positivity, inspirations and optimism. One can definitely be certain in his or her mind and heart.

I am not saying one can’t ask any questions. Sure, one can! But those questions should not take a toll in one’s life. The uncertain questions are mainly unenthusiastic and unconstructive which can cause depression, dejection, hopelessness, misery, gloominess etc… I had often thought in my past that I am fat, I am not fair, I can’t get ninety out of hundred, I am not made for these subjects, or for these beautiful dresses. Trust me, they made it worse. I was gloomy and sad, and everything deteriorated.

So, we need to say yes to positivity and optimism. Moreover we need to ask the right questions! We need to be certain and confident for those correct questions and reach our goals. A little uncertainty is always there, but we should be clear, say 99%...

We need to ask questions like; What is my dream for my future? How should I build my vision? How should I create my imagination into reality? How do I need to present myself to the outer world? How me and my work should be, that we both get positive recognition, respect and admiration? We need to be certain about: I am an amazing person, I am beautiful from my heart, and I love myself and aspire to be an optimistic person with confidence.

We may not get the answers at that moment. It might take time to reach our goals. To get to that creation, we need to be patient. To get to that ambition we need to be stable. And we need to have that trust, belief, faith, hope and confidence in ourselves!

One may say I am vague but not for the correct questions!

“Confidence is something you create within yourself by believing in who you are.”